The next pillar of applying the ground rules is behavioural change.
I knew and could sense that some things I do drove my wife nuts. Not bad habits – I dont really have many of these, but poor behaviour..
- The first one trait to get straightened out was to ensure respect. My wife wears the pants, I obey. No bargaining, arguing, complaining, backchat or admonishing. All has to stop immediately.
- Others included stopping swearing and no more discussion or ranting about politics or whatever – in fact that was to be off limits totally.
- Lastly, anything my wife wasn’t interested in hearing she had the perfect right to tell me to stop.
This is the one that still eludes us a bit – my wife isn’t comfortable with all the aspects of top dog (yet) I suspect as time goes on and I slip a little here and there, she will have to step up and be the boss in no uncertain terms.
The next bit helps – its a very powerful aspect of FLR